Last week ended with an unbelievable outcome: an attractive entrepreneur, who is young enough to be my son, asked me out on a date. I declined, of course, yet I felt overwhelmingly flattered. I am neither successful nor beautiful, yet this sexy, young man – with a sprawling empire at his heels – found me to be worthy.
He arrived at this conclusion during a work-related meeting (the one and only time we have met). In spite of his youth, he had sufficient wisdom to identify my positive attributes, honing in on my personality traits and humour.
It is a shame this man is so young; had he been older, I would have yielded to his persistent attempts to secure a date. I am not ready for a relationship and I doubt I can ever trust a man with my heart, but I was impressed by his selflessness. This man has the world at his feet and instead of plucking a rose in full bloom, he opted for an ageing, wilting stem, long past its prime. This was both compassionate and insightful: he choose that which would most benefit from a little love and attention.
It is rare to see such behaviour from a rising entrepreneur: most seem to chase supermodels or pumped-and-sucked, surgically-sculpted Barbies. I feel humbled and very grateful for his time and attention. More so, I am impressed: an entrepreneur is skilled at making something from nothing and this requires immense self-belief and confidence. It took courage to ask an older woman for a date and yet more to process a rejection with humour and persistence. This young man has a beautiful wisdom which is reflected in his approach towards success: keep battling; don’t stop trying; always persevere.
Yet, I do not believe it was an extension of his work ethic which stimulated his lust: I was not appraised for sport, as some kind of challenge or conquest akin to a business deal. I believe the positive responses I have attracted in recent months all stem from my current mindset: happy, hopeful and driven. I suspect I am radiating the right beam of light; that shining iridescence with which others associate confidence, fun and adventure. I am enjoying all three, to varying degrees, each slowly maturing under an intensifying beam I have no desire to dim. I am giving off the right signals; a beacon to which others are drawn.
I suspect that my beam will continue to project its light within the periphery of others and my suitors will continue to emerge at surprising intervals. I am not sure how to deal with romantic attention as I am unable to enter into a relationship, however, I am resolved to enjoy and celebrate the attention for what it is: a compliment.
I spent most of my 30s with a man who saw no beauty in my being so it is a gratifying luxury to suddenly find myself both desirable and valued. It is a wonderful outcome, generating so many fresh, unexpected and intense emotions – from bewilderment and nervousness to excitement and glee. I shall savour these sensations for many months to come because I feel not only appreciated, present and included, I feel vindicated. I am not as useless, worthless and ugly as I have been led to believe: I have potential. I have hope.